HOW TO CHANGE YOUR BEHAVIOR? How to Create Real Change

I can think of all kinds of ways to change our kids, my family, my ex-wife, and lots of other people in my life. BUT THAT'S NOT THE PLACE TO START TO CREAT CHANGE!  The place to start is with changing me! Albert Einstein said, that we can't solve a problem with the same level of thinking that created it. The same principle applies to influencing and leading people around us.

The more things I see in others that need to CHANGE, THE MORE THINGS IN ME THAT NEED TO CHANGE. People are simply a mirror or reflection of your self! YOU CAN NOT SEE PROBLEMS IN OTHER PEOPLE UNLESS YOU HAVE THAT SAME PROBLEM WITHIN YOURSELF!!

Something I'm doing, or failing to do, is contributed to their current behavior patterns. If I am going to shift their behavior to a new level, I will need to change my behavior!

To change them, I need to change me. 

We can't control others. We can only control ourselves and the FIVE kingdoms that GOD gave us dominion (control) over. (Gen 1:26).

You will create change as long as you are trying to control others through your position power. You can INSPIRE, INFORM AND INFLUENCE OTHERS WHEN YOU MOVE TO A DEEPER LEVEL OF CONSCIOUSNESS AND VISION and leadership being (and greater effectiveness) when you give up trying to control others and FOCUS ON CHANGING YOURSELF!

To create something we must BE something. For example, becoming a parent is easy; being a parent is tough. We can't teach our kids self-discipline unless we are self-disciplined. We can't help build strong organizational teams unless we're a strong team player. We can't help develop a close community if we're not a good neighbor. We can't enjoy a happy marriage if we're not a loving partner. We won't have a supportive network of friends or colleagues until we're a supportive friend or collaborative colleague.