Women don’t get why men don’t talk, and men don’t get why women don’t get that

It’s very difficult for women to understand why men don’t talk—because we love to talk. If two women who meet for the first time spend as little as an hour together, they will know every important detail of each other’s life. They may never see each other again, but they will have learned as much information in that hour as people who know them for decades. Women are sharers; we share through our words.

Men are sharers, too. The difference is that men share experiences; they share through action—not words. So if women need men to tell them how they feel and what they think, and men don’t like this verbal interaction, how do we reconcile these relationships?

We learn each other’s language so that we can translate in both directions. For example, if the man in your life voluntarily brings you a cup of coffee in bed you need to translate that action into the words, “I love you.” On the other hand, if you want to discuss an important matter with your husband, suggest you take a walk together or a drive to a destination that interests him. Then don’t start talking until he’s in a relaxed mood.

Women and men can co-exist happily in a relationship—as long as they learn to be bilingual.