Voices of Enlightenment: Rebuilding Self Esteem After A Break Up

Our personal relationships often define how we feel about ourselves. When a relationship ends, it can be emotionally devastating, particularly for someone whose sense of identity and self esteem was based on the connection to a spouse. Even "boyfriends" or "girlfriends" can define ones sense of self worth. Adolecent relationshps tend to be volatile, because of the escalated intensity of emotions due to hormone changes. Suicides among adolecents are often traced to breakups in personal relationships or even the divorce of parents, leaving a young person feeling rejected or abandoned. The feeling of being rejected is one of the most devastating emotions; it confirms a deep seated fear: "I am unworthy of love." When a person experiences this feeling, it leads to depression, anxiety, and a loss of self esteem. Today we want to re-examine the incorrect beliefs about ourselves that makes us interpret other people's behavior as a confirmation of our own worth. If you truly know that you are a unique expression of the Creative Spirit of the Universe, how can anyone make you feel bad about yourself?