Repairing Family Relationships: Can The Husband Forgive The Wife’s Affair?

Today we’ll try to solve a dilemma between Joe and Sylvia, a couple with a 15 year marriage and two teenage sons. Years ago Sylvia had a relationship outside of her marriage with a co-worker, and it nearly tore apart their marriage. With counseling and help from their church pastor they got through the crisis. This co-worker left the company and the affair ended. Now, years later, this same Co-worker is back and when Joe found out, he insisted Sylvia quit her job. She refused. Now there is tension between them, because this same co-worker gives Sylvia a ride home from work from time to time. She says he is married now, so they are just “friends.” Should Joe get over his suspicion? Or should Sylvia quit her job? Should she accept rides from the co-worker? Is Joe justified in feeling anxious and upset?