Birth Mother Matters in Adoption 18: Adoption: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption 18: Adoption: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

As the co-founder and agency director, there is little I have not seen, heard or experienced.  There should be no secrets in adoption.  When public figures adopt it brings light and awareness to adoption, which assists in adoption awareness, but without releasing personal information it also breeds assumptions, myths and speculation.

The goal of this podcast  is to bring to light truth; the good, the bad and the ugly.  The heroes of adoption are the birth mothers; they show the bravery, commitment and selflessness to make adoption occur.  So while birth mothers wear their cape, society needs to realize their struggle is real.

1. Birth mothers may be married and the birth father of her unborn child may not be her legal husband.
2. The family of the birth mother may not know about her adoption choice and may not even know that she is pregnant.
3. Birth mothers may have intentionally become pregnant and then decided that it was not the right time to parent, not all babies placed for adoption are unplanned.
4. Yes, birth mothers may have a list of possible birth fathers.  This is also very common and this does not in itself negatively impact adoption.
5. Sometimes a birth mother may plan on doing an abortion and then change her mind and make an adoption plan.
6. Birth mothers who do more than one adoption may not always choose the same adoptive family for their second adoption.
7. Sometimes birth mothers choose an open adoption and then disappear after the baby is born, for various reasons.