Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 31: Bonding With Your Adopted Newborn

 Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 31: Bonding With Your Adopted Newborn

Post adoption depression: What is it? Could it happen to you? Mothers frequently feel a loss when baby is born. Postpartum depression is common. Post-adoption depression is equally common, though hardly ever mentioned. Why feel down just when a monumental dream has come true? But after the high of waiting for baby to arrive, a let-down may be inevitable for emotional balance. Relating to an actual baby may also trigger a more-concrete sense of the loss of your fantasy child.

Fear that you might lose your new baby if anyone found out how you feel may also cause you to hide your stress, enhancing a sense of isolation. But moods change. The way you feel in moments of high stress is not how you will feel forever. Looking beyond dark feelings to what your baby needs and feels becomes the agenda of attachment.

Adoptive parents yearn to build a family while feeling terrified something will go wrong. 

Bonding versus attachment: What’s the difference?

Bonding can be defined as the attachment that the primary caregiver feels for the infant.  Bonding is about the love, care, and concern that are unique to your relationship with your baby.  Attachment is a two-way reciprocal process between parents and their children. Attachment is an emotional connection that develops between an infant and the primary caregiver.

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