Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Ep 62: Maintaining Contact With A Birth Mother

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 62: Maintaining Contact With A Birth Mother

Open adoption often begins with promises and commitments on behalf of the birth mother and adoptive parents.  Open adoption often begins with promises and commitments on behalf of the birth mother and adoptive parents.  When a Post Adoption Communication Agreement is entered into the Adoption Court Records, and the state in which the adoption is finalized has laws making the Post Adoption Communication Agreements legally enforceable.

          This can cause confusion and feelings of loss on behalf of the adoptive family, who may have genuienly wanted to have a close relationship with the birth mother of their child.  Dreams and promises may have been made to stay in close contact and have get togethers, phone calls and email exchanges.  This may cause concern over what they will tell their adopted child when he or she grows older and asks about their birth mother.  Open adoption holds so many positive aspects in an open adoptive relationship and when an adoptive family really wants an open relationship it can be devastating when the adoption is finalized, and the birth mother drifts away.  When hen a birth mother has stopped responding to emails, phone calls and has not returned any contact, an adoptive family may wonder why, what happened and wonder what happened.

Listen to this podcast to learn more but remember, “Rivers know this: there is no hurry. We shall get there some day.”  A. A. Milne