Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, 109: The Pressure of Not Adopting

Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Season 2, 109: The Pressure of Not Adopting

People are “peer pressured” for different reasons in their lives and the types of pressure change with age group.

The reasons for birth parents choosing not to parent are sometimes very reflective of why non-birth parents choose to not have children; they are not in a stable relationship, they have personal goals they want to achieve (a maybe certain level of school), they want to begin a new career and climb the ladder, or maybe after having one child, they think- I have reached my limit.

Everyone may not be meant to be a parent, some people have very high career goals that will absolutely monopolize every moment of their time, others may have dreams of exotic and frequent travel, others may just want to focus on the married or single life and have a clean house or maybe they really just don’t like children or feel the responsibility of being a parent is overwhelming.  

Making a choice to be a parent is a wonderful gift, choice and opportunity, but only if its' one you want.  Being told; “when you see your baby- you will fall in love” or “I understand I felt the same way and when I became a mom I loved it” or “Your biological clock is ticking- its now or never.”  Don’t allow yourself to succumb to this pressure, make a decison that is best for you and if married, your spouse.

Adoption is a wonderful choice, if becoming a parent or expanding your family is your goal.