The changing of the gods: How do we deal with fear of change

We have been traumatized and abused now we expect it. We even help when someone that looks like us ,that does not have our best interest at heart. They can even have in the past done harm to us and we will assist them any way we can. We even hurt someone that looks like us but mean us good. We will do the work of the enemy and team up against our  own to help to our enemy to our detrement. We will believe anything our enemy tell us , even though you can research the truth but believe a lie becuse the perso you wnat approval from told you so.  They don't even need to prove anything to you. and we will believe anything they say.