Real Love or Addicted Love: How do you Know?

Love hormones are a thing. Our brain releases them (oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin) into our bloodstream whenever we experience something uplifting or healing. Research shows they can stay active for up to two years, unless we specifically boost their flow.

Their main function is to help us bond with others. Ex: they’re released during childbirth to facilitate the mother’s bond to her newborn. Petting your dog/cat, physical touch with a loved one, and certain kinds of music or exercise will release them as well.

It’s the love hormones that give you that “high” when you’re in the beginning of a relationship, which also has a bonding effect with that person. If it’s a healthy relationship, you’re good to go. However, if that person has undiscovered hidden trauma in their subconscious, and it gets triggered by an event or person, your relationship will be affected. Because you’ve already formed a bond with that person, you’ll have difficulty adjusting, even if you’re emotionally healthy.

If you also have hidden trauma, or have a wounded heart, you’re vulnerable to love addiction.

I only learned the term “love addiction” a few months ago, and have been learning and understanding it ever since. It seems to be the same thing I’ve referred to as “loving from a void”. I’ll share the basics of this topic today as a basis of understanding.

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