Relationship Connections and Responsibility : Soulmates Twinflames Gurus

It seems that everyone is talking about  spiritual connections these days and the spiritual connection they feel to their romantic partner. People insist that some of these connections are soulmate or twin flame connections, soul partner connections and spiritual connections that the Universe has put together. Sometimes though the connection is not felt, or honored, by both parties who are in the relationship. What can you do about it?  If a connection is truly divinely inspired, by God or the Universe, wouldn't it make the most sense to leave the unfolding of that relationship to the higher power who got it rolling, instead of trying to fix and control it yourself? What is your responsibility in the framework of this connection to your romantic partner, to yourself and to the Divine?