Fight, Flight or Freeze Response: Which is Your Default in an Argument?

Why Should I Care What My Nervous System Is Doing?

You may be thinking, “Why should I care what my autonomous nervous system (ANS) is doing?”

But follow me here, because I think once you see how incredibly wise the body is, you’ll be able to see how your ANS is working FOR and maybe even AGAINST you.

Relationships: Do You Fight, Flee or Freeze in Arguments?

I’m a “freezer” during an argument. My partner tends to be the “fighter”.

Here’s a little scenario:

Partner: “I’d really like you to come to (Random event) with me Friday night.”

Can The Stress Response Be Overactive?

Yes. The stress response CAN be overactive, as in the case of my partner and I.

This overactive (or over-reactive) response occurs when we are “triggered” by things we perceive as threatening, but they’re not really life threatening.

Relaxation (Regulating) Techniques

Relaxation techniques are helpful for “deactivating” the stress response. You can:

Use deep, slow breaths, while solely focusing on relaxing your entire body.

Use a mantra, such as “I am safe”. Do this over and over until you feel yourself calming down.

Use visualization, such as lounging at the beach or sitting in nature.

Mindfulness – stay present, so the more rational part of your brain stays “online”.

Meditation – the practice of meditation can help build a more resilient, regulated nervous system, calm the mind

Vagus nerve reset exercises.

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