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The Reality of the Inner Child
We all have an inner child that represents our earliest experiences and emotions.
This inner child can embody both positive traits (playful, happy, excited) and negative traits (hurt, confused, scared). Through therapy, Dan became familiar with his wounded inner child, who felt small and insecure. He learned how to communicate with and support this aspect of himself.
1. I Apologize.
“Dear inner child, I apologize for the hardships you faced growing up. My actions, such as ignoring or repressing feelings, may have contributed to your pain and for this, I'm sorry”.
2. You Are Adored.
“Dear inner child, I adore you. You may not have felt loved at times when you were little. However, know that you have ALWAYS been loved. I am here to love and support you fully, without any conditions attached.”
3. I Hear You.
“I understand that you have been trying to get my attention. You want me to hear you and I am here for you. I know that when I shushed you, it must have hurt you deeply and made you feel like your voice didn't matter. But you do matter. Dear inner child, I am fully listening. What do you want me to know? This is a safe space - please share what's on your heart with me."
“We got this! Let’s work together!”
9. Your Wants and Needs Matter.
“Dear inner child, your wants and needs are valid. Stop basing decisions on others, take time to check in with yourself. Your inner child is valuable and deserves to have their wants and needs recognized and met, even if they were neglected in the past.”
“Dear inner child, you can relax and release the past. You can let go and live in the present with peace and happiness.”